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Teaching your child to share can be easy with these steps

Teaching your child to share can be easy with these steps
June 17
12:43 2013
  • Sharing is caring, and habit of sharing needs to be developed from the very childhood. But not all kids like to share their stuff with other kids. They start shouting as other kids reach for their stuff. If, your kid also behaves this way then it is extremely essential to teach him/her how to share and what is the importance and joy of sharing.
  • Not all children have problem sharing their stuff; they love to make presents for their teachers and parents and share their lunch with other kids, if your kid is also one amongst them, then well and good. However, if he or she’s is not, then you can sow the seeds of sharing by encouraging the display of generosity and by kindly discouraging their less charitable nature. Here are some ideas that can help you teach your child to share.
  • Don’t punish them for their less sharing nature: If you shout at your kid and tell him/her he or she is selfish, then this will only make the condition worst. Instead, you should discipline your child when he/she doesn’t share. To boost sharing, use positive support rather than yelling or shouting. Always remember that it is okay for your child to say ‘No’ some times. As kids mature they learn that sharing from their friends who become important for them. They learn that sharing is more than keeping things to themselves.
  • Make sharing fun: use games to teach your child the importance of sharing. You can try games in which players work together to achieve a goal. Solve puzzles together and make him or her realize that how much fun it is to share their stuff with someone else. You can also share projects, unpack the shopping with him/her, water the plants etc. Finally, give him/her stuff to share with friends, like some sweets or chocolates or some extra sandwiches in the lunch box to have a share lunch during lunchtime.
  • Talk it up: When children fight over toys, try to talk to them to find out what is wrong. Explain if you won’t share your toys with your friends, they will friends may get hurt. If they hold back to share a particular toy then it is perfectly ok he/she might be possessive about truck or doll, but if you child finds it hard to share all his/her stuff then finding a reason and a solution is a must.
  • Teach Your youngster to solve problems: If your child has a firm grip on his toy car or her doll that his friends wants, chances are he/she is thinking that they are not going to get it back. The idea of sharing the toy may be is new for your child because till date he or she was using the toys according to his/her will. Therefore, it is significant to make them understand the idea of sharing and boost your child to take turns with the toy. Make them understand that sharing is not giving away and teach that by sharing the toys both him/her and his/her friends will have more toys to play with.
  • Set the stage: As already said, it is okay for kids to not share their special toy, so before playtime you can ask your child if there is something he/she would not share. Help him/her find a good place to keep those special toys. Ask about toys that he/she thinks would be fun to share with the friends coming over. There are ample of toys that are more fun when shared with friends like walkie-talkie, building blocks, and art and craft supplies. You can also ask your child’s friends to bring along some toys, as it will motivate him or her to share the stuff.
  • Make sure your child’s stuff is not manhandled: It is very obvious for a kid to say “no” when she finds that his toys, books, clothes etc. are manhandled by others. Not all kids use their things roughly, so if your child is very specific and particular about his or her then make sure you take your child’s permission before borrowing the stuff for sibling or your friends’ children. Give him/her the option to say “no”. Also ensure that others respect his/her things too, by asking if they can use them properly without harming it any way.
  • Lead by example: Make sure you set a good example in front of your child about sharing. For a 3 or 4 year old to learn generosity, witnessing it can help in a really good way. So share your ice cream with him/her. Let her enjoy dressing in your high heels and scarf. Ask her if she wants to try your new goggles. Use the word ‘share’ to describe what you are doing. Also, teach your child that not only things are to be shares, feeling, ideas and stories can also be shared.
  • So, try implementing these ideas to teach your 3-4 year old to share his stuff as well as feelings, this will help him become a more responsible, friendly and supportive individual. In addition, he/she will find this teaching of childhood really helpful later in life, when working on a project in a school, college and work place.

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