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10 ways to handle your child’s tantrums

10 ways to handle your child’s tantrums
November 11
11:35 2014

Kids can be really tough to handle at times. They cry loudly, scream, hurl themselves on the floor, and are not ready to listen to you. This behavior is very common amongst toddlers, they behave weirdly when their wishes are not fulfilled. However, there is nothing to feel bad about when you deny some of their wishes. It’s okay to say ‘No’ at times. After fulfilling all their wishes, you will make things difficult for yourself and them as well.

Generally, it is seen parents give in front of their kid’s tantrums to make them calm or to avoid the embarrassment at the public place. But, this will give your tot an impression that screaming is the best way to get all their wishes fulfilled. No matter, whether you agree to what they want instantly or minutes later, the child has learnt that tantruming and screaming equals to new toys or sweets. And next time they know exactly how to persuade you. So, ensure that you don’t give in to tantrums.

10 tips that will help you handle a tantrum:

1. Stay calm: A tantrum is not a pretty view. In addition to screaming, kicking, pounding the floor, your tot can throw things and hold breath to the point they turn blue. While this can be difficult to deal with, you can rest assured that even holding breath is a normal behavior for a kid showing tantrums. If you will also react in the same way by shouting at your kid or handling them roughly, the things will only get worst. Make sure you stay cool and handle your kid calmly, you can either sit beside your kid and watch him do all that he or she is up to or you can leave the room for few minutes. It is better to ignore the tantrum until your child calms down.

2. Try to establish the reason: It is not always necessary that your child’s tantrums are way to “get his way”. There are many more reasons that can make your child irritated and force him to behave awkwardly. It could be the result of frustration, lack of attention or even a physical problem like pain or digestive problem etc. Lack of a place to nap is one of the common causes of tantrums. If your kid takes nap daily at 3 PM and you are taking him or her shopping at that time, then their strange behavior is due to lack of nap. Schedule activities around your child’s needs. Also, make sure they are not hungry.

3. Use time-outs occasionally: Using time out occasionally can help your kid manage his feelings in a better way, especially when he has a tantrum. But ensure that your kid is safe when you are not around. There are no ways that he or she can hurt himself or herself, by falling from the bed or sofa or from stuff lying nearby. Time out can be really helpful when no other technique works out and your child’s tantrum is severe. Placing your child in a quiet place for short time can help in self soothing. Don’t let it reflect as a punishment, explain why you are giving her or him time out.

4. Build a diversion: This could be one more tip in your tantrum handling guide. This works really effectively, when your child is in really bad mood and crying over a certain reason. Try to divert your tot’s mind from the cause, once he/she will forget the reason behind strange behavior, he/she will calm down himself/herself.

5. Hug it out: A big, firm hug can really help him/her settle down. Hugs make kids feel secure and they realize that you care about them. You can also say things that will soothe your tot. Say things like ‘I love you’ or ‘my baby is a good boy/girl’, these things provide comfort to kids.

6. Do not reward the tantrum: Do not give in or you will be simply promoting their tantrums. If the parents give in, tantrums become the best equipment to deal with you. If you will permit yourself to be held hostage by tantrums, your kid will continue to use them long past the age when they would otherwise stop. Leave the room if you get weak. Remember that your child may say things that are hurtful, but don’t give attention, especially at that time, later you can certainly talk about it.

7. Talk it afterward: When everything is normal, talk to your child about his/her behavior. Explain that kind of behavior is unacceptable and how bad he/she was looking when behaving that way. Explain what others have to say about such kids but never compare them with other kids.

8. Do not try to control the things physically: Smacking your child may be important and essential at times but do not discipline physically. Keep it for some other time.

9. Try to head off tantrum triggering situations: Pay attention to which situations triggers your child and plan accordingly. If he/she falls apart when he/she is hungry, carry snacks with you. If you sense a tantrum is on the way, try distracting your child by changing activities or locations. Give them toy, read out a story or do anything that your tot is not expecting. Doing the expected can only aggravate the situation.

10. Watch for signs of overstress: Daily tantrums are perfectly fine for toddlers, but it is a good idea to watch out for possible problems. Has there been disturbance in the family? Parental tensions? Very busy period? All these reasons can also provoke tantrums. If tantrums are very frequent or severe then seek help from your doctor. Visit to your doctor can help find if there are any serious physical or psychological problems. Also talk to your doctor if your child has worrisome breath-holding spells when he gets upset. There is some evidence that this behavior is linked to iron deficiency.

So, next time you find your kid in a really bad mood, try using these methods, may be it will help you handle his/her tantrums more effectively.

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